Slice of Life Challenge
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Why do I focus on what's lacking instead of what's there? Does everyone do that? I want to change that. I've been stressing about the summer ending because I didn't get all of my goals accomplished. Sigh! I keep thinking about what I didn't do...what didn't get done and I feel ashamed of myself. My internal dialogue is not pretty right now and I know that I need to change it, but it continues...
"Why did you waste all of that time?"
"You always do this...plan big and don't get anything done!"
"Everyone else got so much reading and writing done and you did nothing."
The first list is titled "Goals Not Met this Summer"...
The second list is "What I Did this Summer"...
|I also started & ran a summer reading program for my middle school.|
What's funny is the second list is full of meaningful experiences and the first is a collection of the same things that I always want to do...read more, write more, exercise more. I walked a bit. I read ten books. I wrote 40 blog posts and journaled a lot...but it's not enough for me to be happy.
I'm trying to remember this experience for school this year. Students write goals and work towards achieving them. I'm sure some of them feel like this when they fall short. I feel inadequate and small. In the logical part of my brain I know that I'm a good person who did accomplish so much this summer and even if I didn't, I needed time to just BE...but in the emotional side, I'm disappointed.
How do I deal with a student who feels like this? If I were to talk to me like I was a student I'd say this:
I know you are disappointed, but look at what you got done! There's so much on this list and you should be proud of yourself. Instead of beating yourself up, make a new list and start again. When we check in with the progress we've made on our goals, we can adjust and start again. Take this opportunity to start again and let yourself off the hook! It's ok. You grew and changed...but in a different way than you expected...the important thing is you grew and you continue to grow!
Change your focus...words to remember!